If you have recently found yourself as one of the new singles on the market due to a broken relationship, you are probably wondering what to do with your self now.
You find you are having to remind yourself that the relationship is over and you cannot talk to your ex anymore. You have actually reached for your phone a few times before you remembered.
Crying seems to be the new norm and you are just a little depressed.
Before you rush into any kind of new relationship, you need to get over the previous relationship first.
Since you are not going to feel like going out then take this time to grieve for as long as you need to.
Do not make the mistake of thinking that this can go on forever but for a few days or even a week or two, go ahead and grieve for the lost relationship.
After the initial grieving period is over, and no one can tell you how long this period is or should be, you will have to decide that for yourself. Just make sure you do make some sort of decision otherwise expect an intervention by the people you are closest to.
when you are ready, talk to someone you trust, a friend, family member, a counselor or your pastor.
Someone who can help you start to get your new singles life in order.
Your friends and family can help you get out and start having fun again. A counselor or pastor can help with the confusing aspects of getting over a broken relationship and make you see that you are worthwhile and that you can start to love yourself again.
It may be several months before you may even want to date again and that is ok.
Learning to enjoy life as a single person is what is important at this point. Get out and have fun.
If you are with friends at a club and someone seems like they are interested, get their number but explain that you have just recently gotten out of a bad situation and are not ready to date yet.
Tell them you will call in a couple of months, that you need that time to sort things out.
Keep in touch with this person every couple of weeks if you want to and keep them updated on your progress.
If they are still interested in dating you when you are ready then you have probably already made a friend first, which can be an important aspect of any relationship.
When you are ready to date, take things slowly.
Do not take on more than you can handle. Just have fun, do not take things too seriously and do not try to get intimate before you are ready.
If you take the time to learn about who you are after ending one relationship, you will be able to enter a new relationship baggage free and will have better success at making the new relationship work.
Then, being one of the new singles on the market will seem like a piece of cake.
Also published on Medium.