One of the most common things people do after they breakup, is try to explain everything to their ex in the hopes that their ex will change their mind. We convince ourselves that if our ex just understood they would realize they shouldn’t break up after all. Unfortunately, this is also one of the biggest mistakes most people make. If you want to know how to get your girlfriend back, the right way, read on.
The truth of the matter is that if you are constantly calling or texting your ex to explain everything, you are making yourself look pathetic and desperate…and that is not how you want your ex to think of you.
You need to give her time to really miss you and think that it may really be over. If you’re calling her all the time you’re telling her that she can take her time since you’ve made it very obvious that you want her back. She may think of you as her ‘backup plan’ (without even realizing it) and that may push her to go out and start dating.
If, on the other hand, you keep your distance she will be a little unsure of where the two of you stand and if she has any doubts at all about the breakup, she will give it a lot more thought. So, rule # 1 is keep your distance at first.
Rule # 2 is to live your life. This may seem impossible when you are still in so much pain, but it’s important for two reasons.
For one thing, while you may not be able to totally put her out of your mind, you will at least have some distractions if you’re hanging out with friends and family.
Another thing is that it is likely that she will hear that you’re out having fun and that will remind her of the fun times the two of you used to spend together.
Rule # 3, don’t hook up with anyone else. If you’re ex hears that you’re out fooling around with other women she might be jealous, but she’s also likely to get mad and go out and hook up with someone else too. That’s not really what you want, is it,
Use these tactics on how to get your girlfriend back. They will work. Just make sure that no matter what you do you are honest. Now is not the time to try to pretend like you don’t care or you’re not hurting. Don’t be a whiner, but if you love her let her know.