If your marriage has just ended or is on life support and you’re asking: ‘how do I get back my husband,’ you’ll be happy to know that it probably isn’t impossible. Of course, every situation is different and if there has been any abuse, sexual, verbal, or physical, you should consider getting counseling before you try to reconcile with your husband. But, if your relationship was good for the most part, and you still love your husband and think that you can make it work, here are some things that might help.
Step 1 is to catch your breath. It’s very easy to feel a sense of urgency and to feel if you let things go for too long it will really be over. The truth is that time can be your friend. For one thing, it gives you a little time to get your emotions under control so when you do talk to your husband you won’t be a weeping mess or a screaming shrew.
Another reason to give it a little time is that you want him to miss you. You want him to have time to think long and hard what it would really be like if you weren’t in his life.
Step 2 is to try to figure out what you did wrong and what changes you need to make. It’s important that you don’t just become a door mat and accept all the responsibility for making the relationship work, but you do need to be honest about your flaws and how you can do things better.
Step 3 is to get in touch with him and let him know that you still care, you’ve been thinking about things a lot, and if he wants to work on the marriage you’d like to meet.
If he says no, he’s not interested, then you just have to walk away. He may still change his mind but just needs some more time, or he might really want the marriage to be over. No matter which one it is, there’ s nothing more you can do. Walk away with your head held high and go on with your life.
If he says that he wants to try and work on things then the two of you should meet and talk. At this point it might be helpful to enlist a little help either by hiring a therapist of by getting a self help book, anything that can help the two of you navigate your way through a reconciliation.
I hope these steps will help you answer the question: ‘how can I get back my husband,’ You will at least have an idea of how best to approach the situation. Good luck.