Got the first date fidgets, Don’t worry, it’s natural. First dates tend to make all of us a bit jittery. We worry about things like “bad breath” and “body odor” and whether or not our dress makes our butt look fat.
We wonder whether or not we should laugh at his jokes (“Oh, no, how do I not giggle if he says something funny,”, “Does my laugh sound totally corny,”, “Maybe I should just keep my mouth shut…”) and we tend to expect the guys we’re heading out with to know these things already, to know we’re feeling more than a little self-conscious, especially since it is our “first date.”
Oddly enough, we also know confidence feels synonymous with power, and the more confident we are, the less we need to worry about all those little things that tend to make us nervous about first dates.
So, to help you into a state of confidence about yourself and out of those horrid “first date fidgets,” I’ve put together five short, worry-busting confidence boosters you can try before your next first night out.
Tip #1: Add a bit of boost to your regular hygiene regimen by putting some sweet scents in your bath. Indulge in a good long soak early enough on the night of your date to give the fragrance time to soak into your skin. Your body will carry the scent throughout the date.
Tip #2: Instead of worrying about your clothes, pick an outfit you feel comfortable in, one that makes you feel good about yourself, and whether or not your butt looks fat will be the last thing on your mind.
Tip #3: Be you. Don’t try to hamper or hinder your normal state. Just be yourself. If the guy you’re with doesn’t appreciate your originality, then he’s probably not the guy for you anyway. You want a man who will love you for who you are, not who you pretend to be when you’re with him, right, So always be who you are.
Tip #4: Talk before the date. If you have certain expectations about your upcoming date, you need to make sure the person you’re going to be with knows what those expectations are. For example, if you feel uncomfortable around crowds and prefer to dine in a more private setting, he needs to know this before he makes reservations.
Tip #5: Enjoy yourself. First dates aren’t wedding ceremonies, so you aren’t being locked into a commitment for the rest of your life based on this one night out. Remember that, and just allow yourself to have a good time. You might enjoy yourself so much you’re tempted to repeat the experience!