Whenever you are balancing the needs of more than one person it can be a challenge, this is especially true in long term relationships. The reason that a long term relationship can present additional challenges is because a lot of small things that have occurred over the years can build up and create a lot of resentment, when that happens, it doesn’t take much to upset the whole balance. Use these 5 relationships tips to help get back the balance, and love, your relationship might be missing.
1. It’s so easy to let everyday life to get in the way of your intimacy. It can easily seem like too much effort to dress up and go out on a date. It happens all the time. The good news is that even though this can be a common problem, it’s also a fairly easy problem to overcome.
Take time for the two of you, even if that means spending some money on a babysitter. When the two of you are out together, make any conversation about finances, kids, or work completely off limits, just enjoy each others company and have some fun. It’s important for the overall health of your relationship and the kids will actually benefit in the long run from having two parents who aren’t overworked, overstressed and fighting all the time. Invest a few bucks in a sitter now so you don’t end up splitting up later.
2. No matter who you are, you can only give your attention to so many things. Some people can divide themselves up more than others, but everyone has a limit. Instead of parceling out your time and attention to your partner, make suer that you find a way to give them your uninterrupted attention. Everyone wants to feel loved and heard, don’t make your spouse feel like they’re competing for your time, let them feel like they’re important to you and that no matter how crazy things get you care enough about them that you will make the effort to make time for them.
3. Learn to talk, really talk. This doesn’t mean nag, or whine, or complain, or insult, it means taking turns talking and listening. Give your partner a safe haven to talk about whatever is on their mind without making them feel ridiculed or like their concerns aren’t really important.
4. If your partner has a criticism about some aspect of your behavior, don’t just get angry. Instead try to objectively look at the situation from your partners point of view. Try to make simple changes if it will make your partner happy.
5. Don’t be afraid to tell your partner what you want or need. It’s not about making demands, it’s about letting someone who cares about you know what they can do that will make you happy.
Don’t make your relationship hard work, it really doesn’t have to be. Just be willing to listen to your partner and encourage them to listen to you and use these 5 relationships tips as a guideline on your path to a better relationship.